Anonymous asked: "I guess this is personal, but, I would say not to regret not having a 'real' wedding too much. My parents didn't have one either, really, they had to wait a few months to have a real ceremony, (They married right out of high school) and even that one was not even close to being a thousand dollars. You can just wait until you've been married for a while, and renew vows, and go crazy with that ceremony, and then, you'd even have kids to share the moment with you. Sorry if I seem intrusive!"
No, not at all. That is so great for your parents! I bet is was wonderful. It makes me feel better to know others support our decision, because I know less than five people did at the time.
Brandon and I actually talked about this the other day. I kinda think the whole “tradition” of getting married is a little strange. I feel like you should celebrate AFTER you’ve accomplished something, lmao. Not right before you begin. I understand having a small “yay! we are married” thing, like an engagement party, but honestly getting married is not too impressive. It’s what comes afterward that is should be glamorized and broadcasted.
Marriage is hard. It is so difficult to live with some and be stuck with them. It’s hard to figure out finances together and to not fight over who left toothpaste on the sink. It’s even harder when you input other factors like the military, two jobs, or little support into the equation. But it’s worth it if your relationship is worth it. In our case, we were knew that we wanted to be together and there were too many reasons we needed to be married, so we went downtown a few days after he got home from six months of training. I wouldn’t take it back, even though he’s a pain in my ass and he’s got a lot of growing up to do. The first year is the hardest (from what I’ve heard) and I feel like we are finally getting a grip on ourselves and who we are together. It was definitely worth it.
Anyway, I agree though, entirely. I think you should get married, celebrate years later that you’re still married (because you have something to celebrate!) with a vow renewal. I never thought of it that way, but it would be so amazing to have our children there. That makes it even better!
Haha, I got so offtrack in this. I’m sorry. I’m so tired and sick.
